I have a confession to make. I’m not perfect. There I said it. I know you’re shocked. I have some gray hair (yes I dye it thank you very much!), I’m horrible at math, some days I drink more coffee than water, some days I let my son have a cookie before breakfast and oh by the way I like to sniff the coffee in the coffee bag before I actually make my coffee. Ah, it smells so good! I know what you’re thinking big whoop Jenn, not so shocking (except for the sniffing the coffee thing, you’re a little strange). Oh there’s my ego again, she’s so judgmental! So what’s my point? My point is this, we need to be kinder to ourselves and each other. Especially at this time of New Year’s resolutions, we all need to put the big changes that we want to make in perspective. There is no perfect. Perfect is so subjective. We all have different tastes and preferences so why do we think there’s one perfect ideal for anything? Let’s give ourselves a break! You have one life to live, stop stressing yourself out over the stupid crap! Ask six people what kind of ice cream sundae is the most perfect ice cream sundae and you’ll get six different answers. So why do we care so much about other people’s opinions and beat ourselves up for the really important things in life like following our dreams and our passions? Things that make you go hmm… (thank you very much Arsenio Hall).
If you made any New Year’s resolutions good for you, but don’t beat yourself up when you don’t exercise everyday for 45 minutes, drink the recommended amount of water every day and eat all five servings of fruits and vegetables that you’re supposed to (or whatever habit that you’ve had for years that you plan to change in a week). Exercising for any amount of time, one glass of water and a fruit or vegetable (if you haven’t been doing any of these things) is a step in the right direction. And yes, you should give yourself a pat on the back for those little changes. If you vowed to exercise more cut yourself some slack on the days that you don’t end up doing it. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t follow through on positive changes, absolutely you should, but they rarely happen overnight and when you go full speed sometimes you can burn out. Then you go back to being a non-exercising, no veggie eating, non-water drinking mess and it all goes to hell! Remember, small changes add up to big things! So celebrate that one day of exercise, that one cup of water and that one serving of broccoli! Truth is when you or anyone else makes you feel bad for not going all out 100% does it really make you want to do it more? Maybe for some people but most of us thrive on positive reinforcement. We all fall off the wagon now and then. Each day is a new day to start over. And if you’re having a particularly hard time with something, each minute can be a new start. If you get mad at someone and realize you were wrong then just apologize and give yourself some credit for the growth you made in recognizing you were wrong.
In closing, don’t let anyone tell you who you are…no one else knows what’s in your heart but you. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, go for yours! One of my favorite quotes from Oscar Wilde is: “Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.” So don’t judge anyone for what’s going on in their life and don’t judge yourself either! Another favorite quote, “When you know better, you do better.” – Maya Angelou.
Ok one more confession…I tend to babble…a lot…those who know me well are all nodding their heads and possibly laughing right now. Hey stop laughing! So I’ll stop now because I have to go and rinse the dye out of my hair. What grays? Not according to the box of hair dye I have in my hand!
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